LET THEM GO!

Right now as I lay on my bed am thinking, is there anything more precious than my peace of mind? The only answer am getting is nothing. Yes, because there's totally nothing more important than me and my well being. We wake up daily to ensure we don't starve to death. We ensure we don't expose ourselves to danger because we value life. We want to live another day.

But why is it that we can just let someone and anyone play with our feelings? We keep letting them in again and again just because we maybe created endless memories with them. Or we are afraid of being alone. I totally don't get it. 

Can you imagine keeping on bringing someone close who is clearly causing you tears and pain every time you're together? Where else it's clear you're happier and flourishing when not with them. But we never lack excuses. We always have something good to say about them. Just that one thought that keeps making us let them back in our lives.

Now, this is how toxic relationships work. You have a chance to leave them, they give you more reasons to leave them but it's like you go back before you even leave them. This is the thing going on among campus students. Toxicity in relationships is top notch.

I don't get how you can have a partner threaten you with a knife, you break up with them and after one week you're back together. Or have him(er) cheat on you with multiple people and get to a point of witnessing the act and still take them back. Honestly, that can't be love. 

In situations like this the most probable reason why they get back together is the fear of being lonely. When we weigh the situation and imagine spending most days alone without a person you were used to, many resolve for taking their cheating partners back.

Another reason why campus students stay in toxic relationships is because you find both partners are cheating and they know. This becomes like an open relationship which they are well aware of. They therefore come up with terms and conditions that no matter how many people they have at the end of the day they should remember they have a partner to go back to. In this case you find the two don't want to let go of each other despite having multiple side partners. 

What these people forget is that there is someone out there willing to love them well. They however choose to hold on to this person that doesn't respect them one bit. Toxic relationships are causing too many suicidal cases among campus students. Just because they love someone too much but the person cannot return the same kind of love.

We ought to understand that there is a difference between a healthy relationship going through "ups and downs" and a toxic relationship. They may look the same but there is a very huge difference. We only have to observe what is going on in our relationships to understand what it is really we are going through.

It is sad and unless we take an initiative to change the narrative in relationships then the same story will keep on being written. Let us put ourselves first before letting anyone treat us like trash. We all deserve the very best and should never take the bare minimum in the name of being patient with someone. Life is too short to spend it with someone that doesn't appreciate you.